The choice as to whether or no she will make or keep up your acquaintance rests always with her, and in paying formal visits you must keep strictly within the rules which society lays down. You must never call without an invita- tion, unless you go with a friend who has the right to intro- duce you. You must always call upon your hostess within a few days after any entertainment to which she may have invited you, whether you have been present or not. You must leave your card or your name at the door when you enter, and you must not make the mistake of unduly pro- longing your visit. Ten minutes is quite sufficient for an ordinary call, and unless there are special reasons for so doin^, you had better not exceed thatlirnitor you will find yourself in the dreaded category of u bores." If you have reason to suppose that you have offended a lady by any rudeness or carelessness, it is your duty to offer a proper apology or explanation, and you need feel no false shame in so doing, for a true lady will always respect your intentions even though they may be awkwardly expressed. In the above I have throughout used the term u lady,'' partly because it was convenient for me, and partly because 68 ON HABITS AND MANNERS. it conveyed to you something more than the word "woman" or "girl," but I want you to understand that what I have said includes, with very few exceptions, the whole sex. Your schoolmates, your mothers and sisters, the young girls with whom you commonly associate, all should receive from you deference and kindly respect. Do not let the rules and hints which have been given you serve only when you are in the company of your teachers or those whom you yourselves consider a# "ladies," or those, in short, of whom you have a little wholesome fear, but let them control your everyday life and regulate your conduct toward your girl companions, your relatives and home friends. You may be sure that it is just as rude and ungen- tlemanly to push through a door before the girl who stands next to you in class, as before the lady who teaches yon, and that the boy who keeps on his hat in a room full of girls, and suddenly removes it when a teacher looks in, has a great deal to learn, and is not on the right road to learn it. Furthermore, if you do not yourselves show respect to the women of your own kindred and race, you will have no right to expect such respect from other men, which is a full and sufficient reason for you to be toward them, even more than toward others, scrupulous and courteous in thought and deed. ON HABITS AND MANNERS. 69 The following chapters, tor the use of travelers, have been written especially for this volume by Miss H. W. Lud- low, whose experience in travelling with our students and in the South generally, has given her unusual opportunity for observation. CHAPTER XI. MANNERS ON THE ROAD.

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The choice as to whether or no she will make or keep up your acquaintance rests always with her, and in paying formal visits you must keep strictly within the rules which society lays down. You must never call without an invitation, unless you go with a friend who has the right to introduce you. You must always call upon your hostess within a few days after any entertainment to which she may have invited you, whether you have been present or not. You must leave your card or your name at the door when you enter, and you must not make the mistake of unduly prolonging your visit. Ten minutes is quite sufficient for an ordinary call, and unless there are special reasons for so doin^, you had better not exceed that limit or you will find yourself in the dreaded category of "bores." If you have reason to suppose that you have offended a lady by any rudeness or carelessness, it is your duty to offer a proper apology or explanation, and you need feel no false shame in so doing, for a true lady will always respect your intentions even though they may be awkwardly expressed. In the above I have throughout used the term "lady,"' partly because it was convenient for me, and partly because it conveyed to you something more than the word "woman" or "girl," but I want you to understand that what I have said includes, with very few exceptions, the whole sex. Your schoolmates, your mothers and sisters, the young girls with whom you commonly associate, all should receive from you deference and kindly respect. Do not let the rules and hints which have been given you serve only when you are in the company of your teachers or those whom you yourselves consider as "ladies," or those, in short, of whom you have a little wholesome fear, but let them control your everyday life and regulate your conduct toward your girl companions, your relatives and home friends. You may be sure that it is just as rude and ungentlemanly to push through a door before the girl who stands next to you in class, as before the lady who teaches yon, and that the boy who keeps on his hat in a room full of girls, and suddenly removes it when a teacher looks in, has a great deal to learn, and is not on the right road to learn it. Furthermore, if you do not yourselves show respect to the women of your own kindred and race, you will have no right to expect such respect from other men, which is a full and sufficient reason for you to be toward them, even more than toward others, scrupulous and courteous in thought and deed. The following chapters, for the use of travelers, have been written especially for this volume by Miss H. W. Ludlow, whose experience in travelling with our students and in the South generally, has given her unusual opportunity for observation. CHAPTER XI. MANNERS ON THE ROAD.

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