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On habits and manners

1888

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You will gather from the first of our true stories above, that good manners on the road, as elsewhere in public, are quiet manners. Ladies or gentlemen will not wish to make themselves conspicuous among strangers, therefore talk quietly together, or with the friends who come to see you off. Demonstrative farewells are supposed to have been made at home. A kiss should be held sacred for the nearest and dearest, and they will not wish to make a display of it. For the rest, a friendly handshake is enough, and remember again that that does not mean a torturing grip that will leave its memory in aching joints. TO YOUNG WOMEN. Quietness of manner should accompany you all the way, and will be your best passport and safeguard. If you are traveling alone, be especially careful of your behavior. Don't 72 ON HABITS AND MANNERS. enter into familiar conversation with men who are strangers to you. Look out for your pocket book, and remember, too, that as Shakespeare says, "Who steals my purse steals trash." Remember that you have your own self-respect, the rep- utation of Hampton students, and the good name of the women of your race to sustain. Not long ago a Hampton girl was going North for the summer ; money had been sent her for her fare ; alter paying her passage on the steamboat, she put the balance for her railroad ticket into her satchel. Unfortunately, not being perhaps much accustomed to trav- eling, she left her stateroom door unlocked and her satchel lying on the berth. When she returned it had disappeared. Greatly distressed she went to the stewardess. While telling her sad loss a white gentleman drew near, and hearing her account, said to the stewardess, "Where does this young woman come from ?*' u From Hampton Institute, sir." " I can't see a Hampton student suffer when I can help it/' said the gentleman, and, taking out his pocket book, presented her with a two dollar bill to replace the one she had lost. It seems to me there are several lessons in this story, and I will leave them to you to find out. Be observant of all about you. A great deal can be learned on a journey, not only of geography, but of human nature and social customs. One good rule is not to do things or go into places that you see no one else do or enter. A young girl, taking a short journey alone, amused herself for some ON HABIT AND MANNERS. 73 time by watching the ways of people in the same car, and seeing one very pleasant, modest looking young lady, not far off, resolved that she would take her for a model all the way. She thought she was so pretty and sweet looking that she gave her in her thoughts her favorite name, and called her Miss Charlotte. Observing that Miss Charlotte put her satchel in the rack above her, set her umbrella in the corner by her, and folded her shawl over the seat behind her, occu- pying thus only the half seat she sat in, Sarah, as we will call her, took hers from the seat beside her and stowed them away in like manner, though many others in the car were spreading their belongings over a whole seat. At the next station a great many people got in, and Sarah looked rather anxiously to see what Miss Charlotte would do. As usual, the women and children entered the car first, looking from side to side for a seat.