Of all the civilizing influences at work marriage is
the most powerful and important. Take away the
refining and elevating influence of the home, and
men would soon relapse into barbarism. Marry for
love and love alone and let your marriage be a life-
long companionship, based on mutual confidence and
respect. Let there be nothing but perfect fidelity to
each other. This will make the cords of love strong,
but any attempts at deception will, just as sure as the
world stands, weaken the ties of affection, and before
you are aware of it the foundation of wedded happi-
ness will be gone. Look on anyone who' comes to
you with any complaint about your lifetime compan-
ion as being an enemy. The writer cannot speak from
any personal knowledge on the subject of marriage.
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She will write on the subject of marriage as she
feels in her own heart and as she has thought it out
in her mind. Secure a home of your own and then
make it the best place to you on earth. This can be
done by being neat and clean in your own appearance,
by having the home spotlessly clean, with good cook-
ing, and prompt about meals. The wife should be
economical and prudent.
A man struggling for a start in life will be handi-
capped if he has a wasteful and extravagant wife, who
cares for nothing but dress and runs about, rather
than staying in the home trying tO' be a real helpmate,
encouraging and sustaining him in his struggle.
The reader will please pardon this personal refer-
ence. I remember seeing my father come home raging
over something that happened in the business world.
My mother took his arm, walked to a room, sat him
down in a chair. Then she went and made him a cup
of tea, and said, "Here, dear, drink this and you will
feel better." Just such women as my mother was, have
helped to make the w)orld what it is to-day, and it
lies within the power of the coming generation to
make it what it will be in the future.
The husband has his part to do also. By giving his
wife his confidence and arousing within her a sense of
responsibility at the outset of married life, he can help
to develop her character and fit her for her work.
Do not interfere with her in her own domain. Praise
her when she looks neat and acts wisely, and like
most women, she will take pride in doing her best.
In governing and training the children there must
be perfect harmony betwieen the parents. Any clash
of authority or allowing children to appeal from one
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to the other will destroy all government and be a seri-
ous detriment to the children.
Parents should demand perfect obedience but a uni-
form and pleasant manner should be maintained that
will allow their exuberant spirits much liberty with-
out running over the line with them. Children are
quick to notice and they can read you quicker than a
grown person can. The best way for parents to do
is to set them a good example ; that will do more than
words.
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HELPFUL TALKS WITH THE FAMILY.
TALKS TO MOTHERS.
Very few mothers fully realize the importance of
beginning early in life to train children. The char-
acter is then easily moulded.
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AI-modernized reading of the original text
Of all the civilizing influences at work marriage is the most powerful and important. Take away the refining and elevating influence of the home, and men would soon relapse into barbarism. Marry for love and love alone and let your marriage be a lifelong companionship, based on mutual confidence and respect. Let there be nothing but perfect fidelity to each other. This will make the cords of love strong, but any attempts at deception will, just as sure as the world stands, weaken the ties of affection, and before you are aware of it the foundation of wedded happiness will be gone. Look on anyone who comes to you with any complaint about your lifetime companion as being an enemy. The writer cannot speak from any personal knowledge on the subject of marriage.
She will write on the subject of marriage as she feels in her own heart and as she has thought it out in her mind. Secure a home of your own and then make it the best place to you on earth. This can be done by being neat and clean in your own appearance, by having the home spotlessly clean, with good cooking, and prompt about meals. The wife should be economical and prudent.
A man struggling for a start in life will be handicapped if he has a wasteful and extravagant wife, who cares for nothing but dress and runs about, rather than staying in the home trying to be a real helpmate, encouraging and sustaining him in his struggle.
The reader will please pardon this personal reference. I remember seeing my father come home raging over something that happened in the business world. My mother took his arm, walked to a room, sat him down in a chair. Then she went and made him a cup of tea, and said, "Here, dear, drink this and you will feel better." Just such women as my mother was, have helped to make the world what it is to-day, and it lies within the power of the coming generation to make it what it will be in the future.
The husband has his part to do also. By giving his wife his confidence and arousing within her a sense of responsibility at the outset of married life, he can help to develop her character and fit her for her work. Do not interfere with her in her own domain. Praise her when she looks neat and acts wisely, and like most women, she will take pride in doing her best.
In governing and training the children there must be perfect harmony between the parents. Any clash of authority or allowing children to appeal from one
to the other will destroy all government and be a serious detriment to the children.
Parents should demand perfect obedience but a uniform and pleasant manner should be maintained that will allow their exuberant spirits much liberty without running over the line with them. Children are quick to notice and they can read you quicker than a grown person can. The best way for parents to do is to set them a good example ; that will do more than words.
HELPFUL TALKS WITH THE FAMILY.
TALKS TO MOTHERS.
Very few mothers fully realize the importance of beginning early in life to train children. The character is then easily moulded.