3. No one but a thoroughly stupid, selfish and vulgar person, will be guilty of writing a letter or making a remark, that will force such an invitation. 4. It is best to follow the usual course in these matters. 5. A written invitation should be given, to which a reply, also in writing, should be returned acknowledging, with thanks, the invitation, and naming a day upon which you will arrive. 6. Your host should then meet you at the depot and escort you to his house, where, after meeting the members of the family, you will be shown to the room that has been prepared for you. Here you will make your toilet, put on fresh clothing, and be ready to descend to the meal which is next announced. 7. If it is late at night when you arrive, or your journey has been a long or tiresome one, the hostess will suggest early retiring. 8. Breakfast will also be later than usual, that you may have the opportunity of getting plenty of rest. At breakfast it is usual and proper that the host should give you an idea of the daily routine, the hours for meals, etc. XV. Rules for General Guidance. 1. Your friends, and also the friends of the family, will be invited to meet you while in the city, and you will be taken to church, concerts, theaters, and whatever amusements there may be. 2. Of course, you are not expected to adopt the religion of your host, nor he yours, while you are visiting him. Each may attend different churches; but it is his duty to accompany you to your church, and to call for you after services. 3. Ladies may assist each other in little household duties while on a visit; but in volunteering and accepting such light service, judgment must be used. The time of the guest, as well as the room allotted to him, must be sacred. 4. Should sudden illness occur in the family, you may either volunteer to assist in ministering to the sufferer, or, if you can be of no assistance, it is best to take an immediate leave. Especially is the latter best, if the disease should be contagious. 5. Make no demurrer to calls and amusements suggested by host or hostess, and never show that you are bored or dissatisfied if the calls should be upon dull people, or the amusements not the most entertainino-. o 6. If you have no opportunity to return hospitality, small presents to the hostess ETIQUETTE OF THE STREET, BALL, CHURCH, ETC. 405 and her children should be made, not as a payment, but as a complimentary testimo- nial of the pleasure you have received. 7. Never, to use a homely phrase, "outstay your welcome." Kemcmber that your entertainers are not only put to additional expense while you are with them, but that their mode of life is disarranged and you are occupying a great deal of their time. 8. The announcement of your departure should be made, under ordinary circum- stances, at least a day ahead. 9. While expressing regrets that you must leave, a well-bred host and hostess •will not annoy you with solicitations to stay. In these matters it is taken for granted that the guest has a proper idea of the length of time he or she should remain. XVI. Etiquette of the Funeral. Even Death, the grim visitor that waits alike upon all, demands a special etiquette. When the loving circle of the home has been broken, and one of its members lies in the icy sleep of death, the grief of the remaining members demands that some dear friend shall step forward and make all the arrangements for the funeral. 1. This friend, especially if inexperienced, should call to his aid the undertaker who is to have charge of the funeral, and whose advice in regard to the ceremonial will be valuable. 2. If possible, announcements of the death and the time and place of burial should be made in the local papers, and an invitation extended to all friends to be present. 3. Invitations, written or printed, may also be sent out, of which forms will be given in the proper place.

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3. No one but a thoroughly stupid, selfish and vulgar person, will be guilty of writing a letter or making a remark, that will force such an invitation. 4. It is best to follow the usual course in these matters. 5. A written invitation should be given, to which a reply, also in writing, should be returned acknowledging, with thanks, the invitation, and naming a day upon which you will arrive. 6. Your host should then meet you at the depot and escort you to his house, where, after meeting the members of the family, you will be shown to the room that has been prepared for you. Here you will make your toilet, put on fresh clothing, and be ready to descend to the meal which is next announced. 7. If it is late at night when you arrive, or your journey has been a long or tiresome one, the hostess will suggest early retiring. 8. Breakfast will also be later than usual, that you may have the opportunity of getting plenty of rest. At breakfast it is usual and proper that the host should give you an idea of the daily routine, the hours for meals, etc. XV. Rules for General Guidance. 1. Your friends, and also the friends of the family, will be invited to meet you while in the city, and you will be taken to church, concerts, theaters, and whatever amusements there may be. 2. Of course, you are not expected to adopt the religion of your host, nor he yours, while you are visiting him. Each may attend different churches; but it is his duty to accompany you to your church, and to call for you after services. 3. Ladies may assist each other in little household duties while on a visit; but in volunteering and accepting such light service, judgment must be used. The time of the guest, as well as the room allotted to him, must be sacred. 4. Should sudden illness occur in the family, you may either volunteer to assist in ministering to the sufferer, or, if you can be of no assistance, it is best to take an immediate leave. Especially is the latter best, if the disease should be contagious. 5. Make no demurrer to calls and amusements suggested by host or hostess, and never show that you are bored or dissatisfied if the calls should be upon dull people, or the amusements not the most entertaining. o 6. If you have no opportunity to return hospitality, small presents to the hostess and her children should be made, not as a payment, but as a complimentary testimonial of the pleasure you have received. 7. Never, to use a homely phrase, "outstay your welcome." Remember that your entertainers are not only put to additional expense while you are with them, but that their mode of life is disarranged and you are occupying a great deal of their time. 8. The announcement of your departure should be made, under ordinary circumstances, at least a day ahead. 9. While expressing regrets that you must leave, a well-bred host and hostess •will not annoy you with solicitations to stay. In these matters it is taken for granted that the guest has a proper idea of the length of time he or she should remain. XVI. Etiquette of the Funeral. Even Death, the grim visitor that waits alike upon all, demands a special etiquette. When the loving circle of the home has been broken, and one of its members lies in the icy sleep of death, the grief of the remaining members demands that some dear friend shall step forward and make all the arrangements for the funeral. 1. This friend, especially if inexperienced, should call to his aid the undertaker who is to have charge of the funeral, and whose advice in regard to the ceremonial will be valuable. 2. If possible, announcements of the death and the time and place of burial should be made in the local papers, and an invitation extended to all friends to be present. 3. Invitations, written or printed, may also be sent out, of which forms will be given in the proper place.

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